Adopting Siblings -
Did We Do the Right Thing?

Adopting is pretty serious stuff, don't you agree, and adopting siblings is even more so. Here's the story about how we adopted our girls, now I am ready to tell you the whole story.

It's not that I was being deceitful or anything, it's just that I was only allowed to tell you so much in the beginning. Now though, it's been 10 years and things have changed.

First let me say that I've got some good news and I've got some bad news.

Let's get the bad news over with first;

The girls brother who we finally located, well he was moved again ( for the 4th time), into yet another foster home. For over a year, I fought to get him, but it just wasn't in the cards for some apparent reason. We live with it, they still get to visit each other. Actually, he only lives 10 min. away from us and that's riding his bike.

Now for the Good news!!

I never told you this before, but the girls have yet another brother. The reason I never said anything was because we couldn't locate him. You see, his dad got custody of him and made it clear that he was moving and wanted to get settled with their new lives.

After 8 years, my daughters started asking about their other brother, so I took it upon myself to do a little research. I looked on the internet, but didn't know their last name so had no luck, then I called Children's Aide Society. They told me that they could not give out any information on his where about's until the girls reached the age of 18, however, if the boy took it upon himself to find the girls, that would be different.

So I hung up and cried. And I am crying right now, not because I'm sad, but because I am so excited to tell you what happened next!

It was a year later, and my oldest came to me and said, "Mom, we found our brother" I don't know, maybe I'm clueless, but I had to ask her to repeat herself. I asked her how and of course (as much as I hate it sometimes, because they live on it), she said Facebook. I hugged her and thanked "God" for Facebook.

We got his phone number right away, I made the call, arrangements were made for him to come and visit for a couple of days. It was fantastic. He's 16 now, tall, african american/caucasian, and fun to be with.

We called up the other brother, the 4 kids got together for 2 days and had a blast! We took so many pictures, I thought they would get upset after a while, but I guess they wanted to have the memories just as badly.

They are all going to get together again sometime real soon, it's hard to set up plans, especially to get all 4 of them together at once. They each have their own things going on with friends, places to go and so on. The oldest brother lives over two hours away and they don't have a car, which makes it even more difficult.

But it's all doable. The girls are now always looking forward to getting together with their brothers.

PS. I have never been more thankful for Facebook, but don't tell the girls, they still think that I hate it. LOL!!

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I know that when you adopt some really exciting things can happen, as it has for us, even the little things. Like, my girls have always known that they were adopted, and one day when we were talking about it, my youngest who is 11 walked away crying. I asked her what was wrong and she cried "I'm not adopted because your my mom!"

Do you have anything you would like to share with us? Go to the foster parent forum and let it all out. We'd love to here from you.

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