Your Preferences of an
Ideal Adoptive Child

1. Family Involvement: Each person in your immediate family should be involved in this process, not just you and your spouse but also any birth children. Their opinions will count as well in shaping the profile of your ideal child.

2. Gender: Already having children of one sex will often make parents dream that they would like their adopted child to be of the opposite sex.

This is quite understandable, just be sure not to let this decision affect how you will raise your future child. If you are a single parent, you should choose the gender that you feel easiest to relate to.

3. Age: Most people would prefer to adopt babies so that they can watch them grow, they feel that it would be as if they were the ones who gave birth to the child. Adopting a baby means you can raise them the way that you want to and the child is free from any preconceived notions.

If there are kids in your family already, you will need to consider their ages and choose the age of your adoptive child accordingly. It will probably be best to adopt someone closer to their ages, this way it will allow them to relate to each other more easily.

Choosing someone much older or younger might promote feelings of envy, and that would not allow for a very ideal situation. You might want to consider the ages of the kids in your extended family and neighborhood as well.

4. Race: Ideally speaking, you may want to adopt a child of the same race as you because you can connect more easily with each other. If you decide not to tell them about their biological parents in the beginning, having the same skin color and type will prevent others from figuring out the truth.

However, adopting a child from a different race is a precious gift that requires more careful handling. First, you will want to be sure that your family will be able to accept and love them regardless of race.

And secondly, be prepared for the occasional person who is racially biased and protect your adopted child from any abusive discrimination.

A child from a different race, especially if they are older, might also require you to adjust to different cultural values and get past language barriers.

Now that you have completed your ideal adoptive child profile, you can contact an adoptive agency and relay your preferences. If all goes well, you will be on your way to meeting the newest member of your family in a few months time.

But if you hit roadblocks in your journey, don’t despair and don’t just settle for anything else unless you feel completely right about it!

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