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4.Thou shalt put responsibility where it belongs. Treat children and young people as you want them to be. If you want responsible, capable children then treat them as if they are responsible. The best way to develop responsibility is to give it to children. 5.Thou shalt know that children and young people only see one side of any issue. Take what they say with a grain of salt. Not that children and young people lie, but they have been known to exaggerate or see facts only from their side. 6.Thou shalt show love and affection to your children. Thou shalt say you love each of your children at least once a day. Knowing they are loveable is the basis of self worth, regardless of their age. 7.Thou shalt catch children and young people behaving well. Pay attention to your children's positive behaviour more than their negative behaviour. What you focus on expands so if you focus on the positive behaviour that is what you generally get. Praise them when they do something that pleases you. 8.Thou shalt develop independence in children from the earliest possible age. Never regularly do for a child the things he or she can do for him or herself. You want them to feel needed and capable of doing things for themselves and others. 9.Thou shalt set limits and boundaries for children. (However, do expect that they will push against them. Children and young people need limits and boundaries as they make them feel secure. 10.Thou shalt keep a sense of humour when dealing with children. This will help you keep things in perspective. It may seem improbable some days but they will soon grow up and be a living, breathing reflection of "YOU". I know that I said there where only 10 commandments, but most important of all parenting commandments is the 11th one: 11. Thou shalt be a good role model for your children. Show rather than tell children and young people how you want them to communicate, behave and live. Children learn what they live and, as parents, your actions speak louder than your words.
“If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings.”Brian Tracy
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