What is a Private Adoption?
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The process of this type of adoption is similar to that of a public adoption except you will have more control over it and the wait time may be shorter for a newborn.
In addition to the steps of a public adoption, you will need to find a birth mother who is placing her child for adoption. Review the medical records of both the birthmother and father; have them seek legal and social counseling. And wait for the birthmother 's revocation of consent period to expire.
Advantages of a Private Adoption
* You will have more control over the process and of course the wait time will be shorter.
* If the health of the child you adopt is a concern, than this may be the best route for you because you will have access to the medical and social history of the birthparents. You can even ask them questions about it if you would like.
* You will have an open relationship with the birthparents; your adopted child's heritage will never be in doubt. Your child will know their birthparents and how they came to be part of your family.
* Your private adoption could be less expensive depending on how fussy you are, how long you are willing to wait, your finances and the kind of child you are interested in adopting.
Disadvantages of a Private Adoption
* It can cost anywhere from $10,000-$16,000, but if you decide to adopt independently, your fees will be lower. You will still have the birthmothers traveling and lodging expenses (depending on where she lives). You will also be responsible for covering the birthmother's and fathers counseling fees.
You can then choose to find a child yourself and just have an adoption agency or independent licensee finalize the adoption for you.
* There is a lack of newborns that are available to adopt. Many women today who are experiencing unplanned pregnancies are either terminating it or deciding to raise the child themselves.
Due to the shortage of newborns, and an infant is what you really want, you may be best to try international adoption.
* The birthmother could change her mind and decide to raise her baby herself. There is a restriction on when she can do this, but that is not enough of a safeguard for most hopeful parents.
Today's trend is in abandoning the secrecy of the past. The birthmother wants to have some degree of openness between herself and the adoptive parents. So you will likely come to some mutual agreement on how much contact you would like between families. Whether it simply be exchanging pictures and letters or frequent visits between birthparents and family.
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